Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Top 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts

Pensive man on a bench in Berlin by Mkrigman

I’ve been reading about an old interest of mine, Enneagram plus some other personality types. And it hurts my brain. But at least I found this interesting article which is really true. So I will just do what I do best: copy and paste. Enjoy.


  1. If a person is introverted, it does NOT mean they are shy or anti-social.
    This is probably THE biggest misconception that extroverts tend to have when it comes to introverts. And you can’t really blame them for having that kind of misconception. Extroverts tend to have to drag introverts to parties, to convince them to go and sell them on attending social engagements. When introverts politely decline, extroverts automatically assume that something might be wrong so they always ask if everything’s all right and of course, everything is all right. It’s just a common misunderstanding. When extroverts see a pattern like this developing, they automatically assume that introverts are shy or anti-social as that can be the only logical explanation to them.

    What’s more, when extroverts try to engage introverts in small talk, it seems like they hit a brick wall. Add to that, most extroverts see that introverts tend to be fond of engaging in solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.

    Well, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, it must be a duck right?


    What the Duck?!  from Luke Surl Comics by Luke

    Introverts have more brain activity in their frontal lobes and when these areas are activated through solitary activity, introverts become energized through processes such as problem solving, introspection, and complex thinking.

    Extroverts on the other hand tend to have more activity in the back of their brain, areas that deal with processing sensory information from the external world, so they tend to search for external stimuli in the form of interacting with other people and the outside world to energize them.

    There’s a deeper science to this that involves differences in the levels of brain chemicals such as acetylcholine and dopamine in extroverts and introverts, but I won’t get into that.
    The bottom line is that introverts are just wired differently than extroverts. There’s nothing “wrong” with them. They just become energized through different processes depending on where the majority of their brain activity takes place.

    Granted there are introverts who may be shy and anti-social, but that’s just a coincidence that perpetuates the myth that ALL introverts are like that. You’ll find that all introverts are fine just the way they are until people begin to subtly suggest otherwise.

  2.  Introverts tend to dislike small talk.
    If you really want to engage an introvert in conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. They love to debate, go past the superficial and poke around the depths in people’s minds to see what’s really going on in there. Most, if not all introverts tend to regard small talk as a waste of time, unless it’s with someone new they just met.

    This characteristic probably contributes to another misconception that extroverts have of introverts - the misconception that all introverts are arrogant.


    Because extroverts notice that introverts don’t talk that much with other people. Therefore, extroverts assume that introverts think they’re too good to talk to others, hence arrogant and that’s hardly the case.

    It’s just a matter of preference. Extroverts thrive on small talk.Introverts abhor it. There’s nothing wrong with either choice, it’s just a matter of preference. This brings us to the third point.

  3. Introverts do like to socialize – only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.
    Yes, it’s true. Contrary to the majority of public opinion, introverts do like to socialize, but again, only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.

    Introverts love anything that involves deep conversation. They get energized by discussing subjects that are important to them and they love see what and how other people think, to connect the dots, to dig deep, to find root causes, to use logical thinking via debate in conversation, etc.

    And what’s more, introverts can do a lot of things extroverts are naturally good at - give great speeches, schmooze with everyone, be the life of the party, charm the socks off of total strangers - but only for a short period of time. After that, they need time for themselves which brings us to the fourth point.

  4. Introverts need time alone to recharge.
    Extroverts tend to think introverts have something against them as they constantly seem to refuse generous invites to social engagements. Introverts do appreciate the offers, but it’s just that they know it will take a lot of energy out of them if they pursue these social functions.

    They need time alone like they need food and water. Give them their space. There’s nothing wrong with them. They’re not depressed and they’re not sad. They just need time alone to recharge their batteries.

  5. Introverts are socially well adjusted.
    Most introverts are well aware of all the social nuances, customs, and mannerisms when it comes to interacting with other people, but they simply don’t choose to socialize as much as extroverts, which makes it easy for extroverts to assume that introverts are not socially well adjusted, as they have not seen much evidence of them interacting with other people. This just exacerbates previous misconceptions and gives way to labelling introverts as nerds, geeks, loners, etc.

    It’s easy to understand why society tends to value extroverts over introverts. Human beings have lived in a tribal society so having to interact frequently with people came to be a regarded as a very good skill when it came to survival. But because of this high value placed on extroversion, introverts tend to feel trapped and find themselves in a catch 22 situation.

    Do introverts stay true to who they are and risk social alienation and isolation or do introverts conform and join the extroverted side, pretending to be somebody they’re not just to fit in?

    This is precisely why I wrote this article, because if the extroverts can become more educated about introverts, introverts will be able to feel free to stay true to who they are, and that’s a good thing from society’s point of view.

Friday, November 26, 2010

I Want to Learn About OneNote

Microsoft OneNote. Been stated as one of the most under hyped software that is bundled to Microsoft Office. Pinnacle of the greatness and creativity of civilization. The most amazing tool that will at last be able to capture the vastness of human mind. I will now attempt to embark a long, dangerous, full of hardships and obstacles journey to prove whether that statement is true.

Why I Want to Learn About OneNote

  • I've been wanting to try since many people in Lifehacker suggest it.
    Some even said it’s the only reason to upgrade from Office 2007 to Office 2010. I kind of agree for early judgement.
  • The interface is slick and cool.
    I love the Office ribbon, mostly because I never really figure out how to use the old Microsoft Office 2003 UI. To my defence, I mostly use the basic features that doesn't need to be done on Word.
  • FREE
    Thanks to MSDN Academic Alliance. 'Nuff said.
  • Write out will let your mind to be not so tasked so you can remember or do things better.
    Or so I've read. No harm trying, though.

    I will tell how it goes after I use if for a while. So, have you ever use or even heard of OneNote?